Spoiler Alert - NO one makes you angry!

We often say, "You made me angry!" But is that the full story?

Research suggests anger isn't injected by others. It sparks inside us – fueled by our thoughts and interpretations of events.

Blaming language escalates. Owning our feeling ("I felt angry when...") offers a different path, separating the emotion from the attack.

In my person view, "I felt angry when.." is a more mature version, compared to "you made me angry."

Understanding this internal trigger is powerful. It's the heart of emotional self-awareness and control – skills honed in professional coaching, often called 'maintaining presence.' It means recognizing our reaction and choosing how to proceed.